It is not easy to try to get back with an ex who has hurt you but the decision can be therapeutic and rewarding. When we are entangled in a dispute or are agonizing through an estrangement, emotions run high: rage, jealousy, spite, bitterness, and grief all contend for attention.
Even when we grow to accept things as they are we usually don’t have to scratch too far below the surface to discover feelings of resentment, loss and despair. Our awareness of the estrangement—what caused it who was at fault and why it has continued is usually strongly biased towards our point of view. Any objectivity we might have were to look at someone in this case an ex who has hurt you, is clouded by our own sense of prejudice and need to be right.
If you want to know how to get back with an ex who has hurt you, then you must step back from the middle of an estranged relationship and visualize it clearly. Until you can develop a broader viewpoint and greater clarity, it is hard to determine which way to carry on.
A discerning eye cuts through emotion, routine, expectations and desire, and enables us to keenly perceive a situation as it is. We lay bare our strengths, weaknesses, needs and motivations as well as those of the other person. We strive to understand the mistakes we made—and that the other person made. So to get back with an ex who has hurt you, you must do your best to understand the chain of circumstances that led to the break in the relationship so that you can appreciate the options and risks you face in trying to restore it.
Discernment enables you to distinguish possibilities, where it may have seen evasive at first sight and learn what the other person means to you, and determine whether your deepest goal is to mend the relationship or let go.
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