Comments for Beddings http://www.clubduve.org Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:43:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by Smile Baby :] http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3864 Smile Baby :] Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:43:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3864 I may not know a lot about marriage but I do know a few things. It takes two to tango, not one. In your case, your taking the part of both parents. As you know, in life you will not always receive what you want. It brings sadness to my heart to hear this, especially with your sick child. He is too caught up in his fantasy of driving. You need a day(s) for yourself only. Hire a babysitter or ask your family to watch over your children for a day. That day will be dedicated to yourself. Have you talked to him about this? Tell him how you really feel, everything! You need to ask yourself questions too. How does he treat your girls? Does he accept & love them? Please make sure your children are not home. I loathe it when the parents/couples argue with the kids under the same roof. When I am stressed out or feeling down, I write myself a letter or in my journal. It helps me (that's just the 1st step). The next step would be talking to someone about this. A family member, friend, or even a Psychiatrist. (2nd) Gather your feelings together & what you want to happen. Then you have your husband sit down & you open yourself. Tell him that you would appreciate it if he heard everything before he spoke (if you need to). I had a hard time telling my bf (now xbf) how I felt because he kept interrupting me. He brings money to the table, so what?! He is not fulfilling the role of a father nor husband. It's about taking turns & raising the children together. Being united & appreciating the things done by the other & helping out around the house. Don't go to a mental hospital, please. Your just stressed out. What if you have a day, where he takes your place & does everything you do. Stand by his side, help him verbally & don't jump in (unless you have too). Maybe that will help him see what you do for him & your children. After talking to him & you see no change. I think you should move on. You're finishing college & I know you are strong enough to make it on your own. Ask your family for help. Look for what is best for you & your children. :]<br><b>References : </b><br> I may not know a lot about marriage but I do know a few things. It takes two to tango, not one. In your case, your taking the part of both parents. As you know, in life you will not always receive what you want. It brings sadness to my heart to hear this, especially with your sick child. He is too caught up in his fantasy of driving.

You need a day(s) for yourself only. Hire a babysitter or ask your family to watch over your children for a day. That day will be dedicated to yourself.

Have you talked to him about this? Tell him how you really feel, everything! You need to ask yourself questions too. How does he treat your girls? Does he accept & love them? Please make sure your children are not home. I loathe it when the parents/couples argue with the kids under the same roof.

When I am stressed out or feeling down, I write myself a letter or in my journal. It helps me (that’s just the 1st step). The next step would be talking to someone about this. A family member, friend, or even a Psychiatrist. (2nd) Gather your feelings together & what you want to happen. Then you have your husband sit down & you open yourself. Tell him that you would appreciate it if he heard everything before he spoke (if you need to). I had a hard time telling my bf (now xbf) how I felt because he kept interrupting me.

He brings money to the table, so what?! He is not fulfilling the role of a father nor husband. It’s about taking turns & raising the children together. Being united & appreciating the things done by the other & helping out around the house. Don’t go to a mental hospital, please. Your just stressed out.

What if you have a day, where he takes your place & does everything you do. Stand by his side, help him verbally & don’t jump in (unless you have too). Maybe that will help him see what you do for him & your children.

After talking to him & you see no change. I think you should move on. You’re finishing college & I know you are strong enough to make it on your own. Ask your family for help. Look for what is best for you & your children. :]
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by Cannetellya W http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3863 Cannetellya W Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:06:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3863 Im 26, and my fiancee is 27 we also have 2 children and argue about the similar issues in your case. Who gets more sleep, who does the washing up etc etc .. you are obviously in a much more stressful situation if your children are not well. what you need to do is sit down, and both of you write a letter about what you want, how you want your life to move forward and your ambition plans for the future. Put a calender on the fridge, mark this day as my day and he can mark his days as his days .. he gets a day a week and you get a day or week or something, that will work for both of you. you really need to express your feelings to him, and im sure he wants to express his feelings to you. divorce or seperation would not be a great option as im sure your children need you both right now. compromise and make it work as much as you can, marriage is hard trust me. but please please try and make it work for the sake of your kids. he wont make it as a racing driver, and his hobby will pass in time, and you will start to relax when you get back to college.. its a rough patch, you guys have to compromise. best of luck, sorry for the speeling its late!<br><b>References : </b><br> Im 26, and my fiancee is 27 we also have 2 children and argue about the similar issues in your case. Who gets more sleep, who does the washing up etc etc .. you are obviously in a much more stressful situation if your children are not well.

what you need to do is sit down, and both of you write a letter about what you want, how you want your life to move forward and your ambition plans for the future. Put a calender on the fridge, mark this day as my day and he can mark his days as his days .. he gets a day a week and you get a day or week or something, that will work for both of you. you really need to express your feelings to him, and im sure he wants to express his feelings to you.

divorce or seperation would not be a great option as im sure your children need you both right now. compromise and make it work as much as you can, marriage is hard trust me. but please please try and make it work for the sake of your kids.

he wont make it as a racing driver, and his hobby will pass in time, and you will start to relax when you get back to college.. its a rough patch, you guys have to compromise.

best of luck, sorry for the speeling its late!
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by Riverrat715 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3862 Riverrat715 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:45:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3862 Hon, I really feel sorry for you and the situation you are in. I think your husband may be overwhelmed by the situation with the kids and just doesn't know how to help so he looks the other way and pretends he doesn't see how hard you work and the kind of stress you are under. Now, what I suggest you do is to go to social services and talk to them about how you need some respite help. I don't know what your income is but with two children who have medical problems I think you are more than likely elgible for that kind of assistance. Please at least try it. When you get that time go somewhere and give yourself a treat whether it be the spa, a movie etc. You desperately need help before you just burn out and then you won't be able to help anyone. I would like to give some of these people who answered you a good swift kick. They have no idea of what you and your husband are dealing with on a daily basis. I am not excusing your husband, I am just telling you what I see here. Good luck dear and give yourself a huge hug. You are doing way more than your share as a wife and mother.<br><b>References : </b><br>Family advocate and counselor. Hon, I really feel sorry for you and the situation you are in. I think your husband may be overwhelmed by the situation with the kids and just doesn’t know how to help so he looks the other way and pretends he doesn’t see how hard you work and the kind of stress you are under. Now, what I suggest you do is to go to social services and talk to them about how you need some respite help. I don’t know what your income is but with two children who have medical problems I think you are more than likely elgible for that kind of assistance. Please at least try it. When you get that time go somewhere and give yourself a treat whether it be the spa, a movie etc. You desperately need help before you just burn out and then you won’t be able to help anyone. I would like to give some of these people who answered you a good swift kick. They have no idea of what you and your husband are dealing with on a daily basis. I am not excusing your husband, I am just telling you what I see here. Good luck dear and give yourself a huge hug. You are doing way more than your share as a wife and mother.
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by pure silk http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3861 pure silk Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:34:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3861 my goodness, you do need some help. And you want it from your husband. You've given him to much. You've spoiled him. And I just don't have any answer's for ya. But I will say this, when you get your degree and you start making some money, where you can support your self and your children. I'd walk out on him. Make him pay child support and show him how it feels to be totally alone. I mean if you have to do it all alone, what do you need him for?<br><b>References : </b><br> my goodness, you do need some help. And you want it from your husband. You’ve given him to much. You’ve spoiled him. And I just don’t have any answer’s for ya. But I will say this, when you get your degree and you start making some money, where you can support your self and your children. I’d walk out on him. Make him pay child support and show him how it feels to be totally alone. I mean if you have to do it all alone, what do you need him for?
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by Shar B http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3860 Shar B Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:26:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3860 There seems to be two things going on here. First, you are stressed to the max! Having children and going to college can do that. Secondly, you and your husband have differing views on the roles of partners in marriage. Some people have a more traditional view of the roles and that being that the man goes to work while the woman stays home and cares for the children. Others have a more shared view with both partners working and sharing the house hold chores. The two of you need to get on the same page. If you can, ask your sister to watch the children for a few hours while you and your husband have a nice chat. Let him know how you are feeling and what your needs are. If he blows you off and doesn't take you seriously, then may I steer you towards a good divorce lawyer? You're already doing everything on your own anyways; why not be on your own and not have to take care of him too? Some men need a wake up call. Give him one!<br><b>References : </b><br> There seems to be two things going on here. First, you are stressed to the max! Having children and going to college can do that. Secondly, you and your husband have differing views on the roles of partners in marriage. Some people have a more traditional view of the roles and that being that the man goes to work while the woman stays home and cares for the children. Others have a more shared view with both partners working and sharing the house hold chores. The two of you need to get on the same page. If you can, ask your sister to watch the children for a few hours while you and your husband have a nice chat. Let him know how you are feeling and what your needs are. If he blows you off and doesn’t take you seriously, then may I steer you towards a good divorce lawyer? You’re already doing everything on your own anyways; why not be on your own and not have to take care of him too? Some men need a wake up call. Give him one!
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by squeezzer http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3859 squeezzer Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:00:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3859 at 23, he is way over the hill to ever make it to nascar, tell him to grow up and be a father<br><b>References : </b><br> at 23, he is way over the hill to ever make it to nascar, tell him to grow up and be a father
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by megacab http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3858 megacab Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:53:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3858 Just reading about your life stresses me out. My goodness! Is there anyway you could afford to pay a sitter? Your really do seem to need some breaks. The only advice I can come up with is to set down and expalin to your husband that you need to be a team and parent your children together but I think I would tell him to work extra hard because I would be using his extra cash to pay for the help he doesn't give.<br><b>References : </b><br> Just reading about your life stresses me out. My goodness! Is there anyway you could afford to pay a sitter? Your really do seem to need some breaks.
The only advice I can come up with is to set down and expalin to your husband that you need to be a team and parent your children together but I think I would tell him to work extra hard because I would be using his extra cash to pay for the help he doesn’t give.
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by lovepreschool http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3857 lovepreschool Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:46:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3857 so who was watching the kids while you had the time to type all this? You'd better get used to doing things yourself since you gave him the green light for car racing. If he did make it to the BIG time, he will be on the road from February till November. Don't even consider a mental hospital. You really don't know what kinds of things go on in those places and the meds they shoot you up with. More than likely you would lose your children in the process. If you ever broke up, he could use it against you and get custody of the children. You really need to make some hard decisions about your marriage and do what's best for you and your little ones.<br><b>References : </b><br> so who was watching the kids while you had the time to type all this? You’d better get used to doing things yourself since you gave him the green light for car racing. If he did make it to the BIG time, he will be on the road from February till November.

Don’t even consider a mental hospital. You really don’t know what kinds of things go on in those places and the meds they shoot you up with. More than likely you would lose your children in the process. If you ever broke up, he could use it against you and get custody of the children.

You really need to make some hard decisions about your marriage and do what’s best for you and your little ones.
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by Mike http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3856 Mike Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:41:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3856 welcome to the world or marriage and parenting. You took the vows with him, I didn't!! EDIT--> Honey, you got married to this guy. I know all about marriage and divorce too. I know you would be writing the same Sh1t here...no matter who decided to take you as a wife. Your story is a rant which I do not even have to read. I can just imagine the BS your hubby has to go through!!<br><b>References : </b><br> welcome to the world or marriage and parenting.

You took the vows with him, I didn’t!!

EDIT–> Honey, you got married to this guy. I know all about marriage and divorce too. I know you would be writing the same Sh1t here…no matter who decided to take you as a wife. Your story is a rant which I do not even have to read. I can just imagine the BS your hubby has to go through!!
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]]> Comment on my husband take me for granted…how do i make him see me? by shaytx32 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me/#comment-3855 shaytx32 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:03:59 +0000 http://www.clubduve.org/nascar-bedding/my-husband-take-me-for-granted-how-do-i-make-him-see-me#comment-3855 give it 2 god he will show u the answers.<br><b>References : </b><br> give it 2 god he will show u the answers.
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